Haley, have gone over 9000 on my irritation meter for the slander against Johnny Depp.
Warning: This is going to be loooooong.
Note: Anything that I cannot prove, anything that is speculation, is going to be clearly marked with this color.
Before I start this, I am going to act as a teacher for just a few moments. Here are a few important definitions you will see in this blog post:
Fact: A thing that is indisputably the case.
Proof: Evidence or argument establishing or helping to establish a fact or the truth of a statement.
Divorce: The legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.
Allegations: A claim or assertion that someone has done something illegal or wrong, typically one made without proof.
Admitted: Confess to be true or to be the case, typically with reluctance.
Charges: Accuse (someone) of something, especially an offense under law.
Arrest: Seize (someone) by legal authority and take into custody.
Restraining order: A temporary court order issued to prohibit an individual from carrying out a particular action, especially approaching or contacting a specified person.
Conviction: A formal declaration that someone is guilty of a criminal offense, made by the verdict of a jury or the decision of a judge in a court of law.
Abuse: Treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.
Narcissist: A person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.
Law: The system of rules that a particular country or community recognizes as regulating the actions of its members and may enforce by the imposition of penalties.
Presumption of innocence: The principle that one is considered innocent unless proven guilty.
Victim: A person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action.
Survivor: A person who copes well with difficulties in their life.
Criminal defense lawyer: A lawyer specializing in the defense of individuals and companies charged with criminal activity.
With prejudice: A case in which the plaintiff is barred from filing another case on the same claim. Dismissal with prejudice is a final judgment and the case becomes ‘res judicata’ on the claims that were or could have been brought in it.
Now, in the interest of covering all of the bases, we are going to start with both Amber Heard and Johnny Depp before they ever got together. Amber first.
A brief bio: Amber Heard was born to parents Patricia Paige and David Heard in Austin, Texas (this will be important later), and appeared in small film and TV roles until her breakout role in Pineapple Express in 2008. She then appeared alongside Johnny Depp in the Rum Diary in 2011. Before Johnny Depp, she was in a long-term relationship with Tasya van Ree.
IMPORTANT: ABUSE HAS NO GENDER. REPEAT THAT ABOUT SIX TIMES.
In 2009, Amber Heard was arrested for misdemeanor assault against her partner, Tasya van Ree. The incident happened in an airport in Seattle, and was witnessed by Beverly Leonard, a police officer. Heard grabbed and struck van Ree’s arm in an apparent argument. Leonard arrested Heard.
Tasya did not drop the charges. The charges had a two-year statute of limitations, meaning that they could be filed again within two years. This also means that there was sufficient evidence to prosecute, but being that the incident did not happen in Heard’s state of residency (California) the judge didn’t elect to pursue the charges.
I am going to repeat the above statement again. Abuse has no gender. It is inappropriate to ignore this abuse case for the following reasons:
The gender of either person does not matter, and the nature of the relationship does not matter. Amber Heard hit Tasya van Ree, period.
Now, it is worth mentioning that van Ree did not defend Heard until 2016. That is seven years after the incident occurred. She allowed Heard to be arrested without protest, and she allowed Heard to appear in court without protest.
Before I mention what van Ree used as the ‘defense’, I am going to mention an interesting tidbit of information involving Heard, and the mark on her record regarding the abuse incident.
In 2011, Heard asked for the abuse charges to be expunged from her record. Deleted, taken off, wiped. Normally, this may not be so strange. If a person has turned around for the better, and they are no longer a danger to anyone, why should a past mistake define them? However, in 2011, she was also starring in the Rum Diary alongside Johnny Depp. Quite the coincidence for her to suddenly want her abuse record gone…perhaps because she didn’t want Depp to sniff her out or get suspicious beforehand about her potential behavior?
Now, in 2016, when Heard’s 2009 domestic violence arrest was dredged up, Tasya van Ree suddenly had a lot to say about it.
Yep. Tasya van Ree claimed that the reason Heard was arrested was because the officer that witnessed the incident was homophobic and misogynistic. Tasya called the incident ‘misunderstood’ and ‘sensationalized’. Reminder, this is the first time Tasya spoke out in defense of the charges against Heard since 2009.
However, once van Ree made that claim, the arresting officer was quick to speak out in defense of her actions.
That’s right, the arresting officer of the 2009 incident, Beverly Leonard, is a gay woman.
To reiterate, so far, we have established that Amber Heard has a history of domestic violence (fact), and she apparently coerced her victim to lie for her.
We are going to briefly go over another questionable incident involving Heard:
She told her mother to ‘never make eye contact’ with the press in a very authoritative way. This is just the first example of her controlling behavior that I will mention.
First, his relationships (pay attention to the underlined ones, they will be important later):
Lori Allison (1983-1985): Married.
Sherilyn Fenn (1985-1988): Engaged.
Jennifer Grey (1989): Dated.
Winona Ryder (1989-1993): Engaged.
Juliette Lewis (1993): Rumored to have dated.
Ellen Barkin (1994): Dated.
Kate Moss (1994-1998): Dated.
Vanessa Paradis (1998-2012): Dated and had two children, Lily-Rose and Jack.
Let us count really quick. That is eight women. 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8. (Just in case you can’t count.)
NONE OF THESE WOMEN EVER ACCUSED JOHNNY DEPP OF ANY KIND OF ABUSE. EVER.
Depp has also been arrested before. The one that people like to reference the most in regards to Heard’s claims is the hotel incident in 1994. Click.
No matter what anyone claims, makes up, decides, or suggests, this incident was not a case of domestic violence. Period.
The other case that is referenced is his paparazzi incident in 1999, when he threatened a photographer for trying to take a picture of a pregnant Vanessa Paradis. Click.
This is also not, in any way, evidence of an abusive personality. At all.
Before we get into the relationship and aftermath, I want to go over a couple of key things first. Namely, characteristics of both an abuser and a victim, characteristics of a narcissist, and some of the stigma surrounding male victims of domestic violence.
I am going to repeat this again, because this is still very important:
ABUSE VICTIMS CAN BE BOTH MEN AND WOMEN.
Characteristics of an abuser (this list originally only used male pronouns, but I have changed it to be gender neutral):
Initially, they shower their partner with praise, adoration, and attention. The courtship is sweet and intense filled with phrases such as, “I can’t live without you.” They quickly push for an exclusive relationship or engagement.
They view other people as a threat to the relationship and accuses you of flirting with everyone from their sibling to the mailman. “I know you are looking at them.” The irony is that they are often the one who is cheating.
This person is very intelligent. They know how to detect your weak spots, and they use your vulnerability and past pain to their advantage. “You were abused as a kid because you are so ugly.”
They want to know where you are going and who you are with at all times. They may check the mileage on your car or follow you to the grocery store. They often refuse to allow you to work because you might “meet someone.”
5. A Victim.
Their poor choices are everyone else’s fault. When they lose their job, get into a fight, or a business deal falls through, it’s always because of the other person. They are never at fault. “You make me hit you.”
The whole world revolves around them. As the “little person who is beneath him,” it is your job to meet their every need. They are the master; you are the unworthy slave. It’s invigorating for them to know that everyone around them “walk on eggshells.”
Mood swings are a common trait for an abuser. One minute they seem happy and sweet, the next they are pounding their fist.
No matter how hard you try you will never be able to satisfy this kind of person. They think nothing of degrading and verbally assaulting you. “You are a stupid, fat, disgusting person. You can never leave me. No other person would have you.”
Their main goal is to isolate their victim from family and friends so that you are totally dependent on them. “Your family causes too much trouble for us. I don’t want you seeing them anymore.”
The slightest offense sends them ranting. Everyone is out to “get them.”
11. Vicious and cruel.
A significant number of abusers harm children and animals as well as a partner. Inflicting pain and intimidating others is what gives them power. “I’ll kill you before I’ll let you go. If I can’t have you, no one will.”
12. Insincerely repentant.
They will swear to never “hit you again.” But unless they receive professional help and strong accountability it’s very unlikely that they will change.
Pay very close attention to the above list, because all of it will be important later.
Now, characteristics of a narcissist:
1. Frequent Lies and Exaggerations
Both narcissists and gaslighters are prone to frequent lies and exaggerations (about themselves and others), and have the tendency of lifting themselves up by putting others down. While narcissists often strive to make themselves seem superior and “special” by showing off, bragging, taking undeserved credit, and other forms of self-aggrandizement, gaslighters tend to concentrate on making you feel inferior through false accusations, constant criticism, and psychological intimidation. Both narcissists and gaslighters can be adept at distortion of facts, deliberate falsehoods, character assassinations, and negative coercions. One key difference is that while the narcissist lies and exaggerates to boost their fragile self-worth, the gaslighter does so to augment their domination and control.
2. Rarely Admit Flaws and Are Highly Aggressive When Criticized
Many narcissists and gaslighters have thin skin and can react poorly when called to account for their negative behavior. When challenged, the narcissist is likely to either fight (e.g., temper tantrum, excuse-making, denial, blame, hypersensitivity, etc.) or take flight (bolt out the door, avoidance, silent treatment, sulking resentment, or other forms of passive-aggression). The gaslighter nearly always resorts to escalation by doubling or tripling down on their false accusations or coercions, to intimidate or oppress their opponent. Many gaslighters view relationships as inherently competitive rather than collaborative; a zero-sum game where one is either a winner or a loser, on top or at the bottom. “Offense is the best defense” is a mantra for many gaslighters, which also represents their aggressive method of relating to people.
3. False Image Projection
“My husband always wants people to see him as successful, powerful, and envy-worthy, no matter how shaky his real life actually is.” —Anonymous partner of narcissist
Both narcissists and gaslighters tend to project false, idealized images of themselves to the world, in order to hide their inner insecurities. Many narcissists like to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This “trophy complex” can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. The underlying message of this display is: “I’m better than you!” or “Look at how special I am — I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance!”
Gaslighters, on the other hand, often create an idealized self-image of being the dominant, suppressive alpha male or female in personal relationships, at the workplace, or in high-profile positions of society (such as politics and media). Many gaslighters like to view themselves falsely as all-powerful and strong, capable of dishing out judgments and penalties at will. Pathological gaslighters often take pride and boost themselves up by marginalizing those whom they perceive as weaker, believing that the meek deserve their downtrodden fate. They attack their victims with direct or subtle cruelty and contempt, gaining sadistic pleasure from these offenses, and betraying a lack of empathy and humanity.
In essence, narcissists want others to worship them, while gaslighters want others to submit to them. In a big way, these external facades become pivotal parts of their false identities, replacing the real and insecure self.
4. Rule Breaking and Boundary Violation
Many narcissists and gaslighters enjoy getting away with violating rules and social norms. Examples of narcissistic trespass include cutting in line, chronic under-tipping, personal space intrusion, borrowing items without returning, using other’s properties without asking, disobeying traffic laws, breaking appointments, and negating promises. Examples of gaslighting trespass include direct or subtle marginalizing remarks, public or private shaming and humiliation, sardonic humor and sarcastic comments, internet trolling, angry and hateful speech, and virulent attacks on undesirable individuals and groups.
Both narcissist and gaslighter boundary violations presume entitlement, with a narrow, egocentric orientation that oppresses and de-humanizes their victims. In severe cases, this boundary violation pathology may result in illicit and underhanded dealings, financial abuse, sexual harassment, date rape, domestic abuse, hate crimes, human rights violations, and other forms of criminality. Many narcissists and gaslighters take pride in their destructive behaviors, as their machinations provide them with a hollow (and desperate) sense of superiority and privilege.
5. Emotional Invalidation and Coercion
Although narcissists and gaslighters can be (but are not always) physically abusive, for the majority of their victims, emotional suffering is where the damage is most painfully felt. Both narcissists and gaslighters enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions in order to feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They habitually invalidate others’ thoughts, feelings, and priorities, showing little remorse for causing people in their lives pain. They often blame their victims for having caused their own victimization (“You wouldn’t get yelled at if you weren’t so stupid!”).
In addition, many narcissists and gaslighters have unpredictable mood swings and are prone to emotional drama — you never know what might displease them and set them off. They become upset at any signs of independence and self-affirmation (“Who do you think you are!?”). They turn agitated if you disagree with their views or fail to meet their expectations. As mentioned earlier, they are sensitive to criticism, but quick to judge others. By keeping you down and making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel more reassured about themselves.
6. Manipulation: The Use or Control of Others as an Extension of Oneself
Both narcissists and gaslighters have a tendency to make decisions for others to suit their own agenda. Narcissists may use their romantic partner, child, family, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover-up weaknesses and shortcomings. Narcissists are also fond of using guilt, blame, and victimhood as manipulative devices.
Gaslighters conduct psychological manipulation toward individuals and groups through persistent distortion of the truth, with the intention of causing their victims to question themselves and feel less confident. In personal and/or professional environments, they manipulate by micromanaging (controlling) relationships, including telling others how they should think, feel, and behave under the gaslighter’s unreasonable restrictions and scrutiny. They often become critical, angry, intimidating, and/or hostile toward those who fail to bow down to their directives. Gaslighter manipulation is often highly aggressive, with punitive measures (tangible or psychological) executed toward those who fail to recognize and obey their self-perceived authority.
Perhaps the biggest distinction between narcissists and gaslighters is that narcissists use and exploit, and gaslighters dominate and control. While the narcissist does so to compensate for a desperate sense of deficiency (of being unloved as the real self), the gaslighter does so to hide their ever-present insecurity (of being powerless and losing control). Both of these pathological types betray an inability and/or unwillingness to relate to people genuinely and equitably as human beings. They become “special” and “superior” by being less human and by de-humanizing others.
In the worst-case scenario, some individuals possess traits of both narcissism and gaslighting. This is a highly toxic and destructive combination of vanity, manipulation, bullying, and abuse — all unleashed in order to compensate for the perpetrator’s deep-seated sense of inadequacy and fear.
Again, the above list is very important.
Characteristics of an abuse victim:
Although there is no specific type of person who is more likely to be abused, there are abuse victim characteristics which people in an abusive relationship tend to have in common or display. These can include:
Ok, now that we have those laid out, we will proceed into the nitty gritty pieces of the relationship.
Take a look at these pictures first, and compare Johnny Depp to the above list of victim characteristics.
In any of these pictures, does Amber Heard honestly look like an abuse victim?
No. She looks very confident, very center-of-attention, very controlling, and very dominant. All key traits of a narcissistic abuser.
Does Johnny Depp look like an abuser?
No. He looks like a victim. Poor appearance, obvious submissiveness, depression…the list goes on. Anyone who has ever seen a victim of abuse can very clearly see that Depp was the victim here, not Heard.
Next, I want to discuss something that many Heard defenders conveniently overlook.
Amber Heard hit her ‘abuser’ on camera.
Let me repeat that. Amber Heard hit her ‘abuser’ on camera. She physically struck her ‘abuser’ on camera, and not only did she do this, she seemed to have no fear afterwards, no anxiety, no ‘oh shit I just hit the man who beats me up’ reaction. Nothing.
Notice in the video that she seems very aggressive and rude. Also notice, again, that she hits her ‘abuser’. She hits him again a little later in the episode after the car is revealed.
SHE. HIT. HER. ‘ABUSER’.
What kind of abuse victim hits her ‘abuser’, and then continues smiling and laughing? Answer: none.
Heard was also reported many times to be very controlling and possessive over Depp at public events. One such incident happened at a Black Mass event:
Johnny started talking to an unknown female, and Amber got pissed. Take another look at the list of narcissistic traits. You will notice jealousy as one of them.
Another exhibit of Amber’s behavior during the relationship is this:
Does this look like an abuse victim to you? Another similar piece of…behavior that I will not link or show here is a video that was evidently taken from her phone. It depicted her rolling around on a bed nude begging Depp to come home, saying he ‘belonged’ with her’ and to look at ‘what he was missing’.
But she is an ‘abuse victim’. Right.
The dog smuggling.
This incident is squarely placed on Amber Heard’s shoulders. She faced a large fine and up to 10 years in jail. This is important to remember, because one of the abuse incidents she cited in her court declaration happened directly after she found out her potential consequences. I will come back to that later.
However, Depp took the fall for it. Because as a victim of abuse, he felt that he had to support his abuser.
In the end, Heard plead guilty to falsifying documents, and was given a slap on the wrist. (Note: If it had been Depp that did this, the media would still be talking about it.)
From this point on, I will be coming back to several incidents that happened during the relationship that were referenced during the divorce. Otherwise, everything will be during the divorce and afterward.
Heard listed the reason for her divorce as ‘irreconcilable differences’. She did not list or mention any abuse allegations.
This, readers, is a letter sent by Samantha Spector to Depp’s legal team. It is a veiled extortion letter in which Spector, on behalf of Amber Heard, demands that Depp give Heard three condos that he continue to pay for, compensation for all of Heard’s legal fees, a Range Rover, and 50,000 in spousal support. Spector states that she ‘hopes they can remain out of the public eye in the basis of working out solutions’.
Translation: Agree to this shit or Amber Heard is going to sell her allegations and photos to every rag that will take them. Which is, evidently, People Magazine.
This came out as soon as Depp refused (because he did refuse to give Heard anything) to give into Heard’s demands. If you look closely, you will notice that the front of the magazine has ‘Exclusive Photo’ in the fine print. It says when this injury apparently occurred (‘last December’). This is important, because Heard cited this incident (but strangely refused to give a specific date) as the ‘worst beating of her life’.
These allegations came out, and then Heard filed for a temporary restraining order, complete with declarations submitted by iO Tillet Wright, and Raquel Pennington (both of whom had* or were currently living in Johnny’s penthouses that Heard asked for in the extortion letter). Heard was denied a permanent restraining order.
* iO had lived in one of the penthouses until sometime in 2015.
These declarations describe the incident on May 21st, where Depp allegedly threw a cell phone at Heard’s face. iO Tillet Wright called the police. The police arrived at the residence, and examined both Heard and the property. They found nothing. No injuries on Heard, and no damage. Heard told them “nothing” happened, and she refused to file a police report. They left this:
There are several pictures of Heard after this incident, and a video of Heard driving to Coachella a few days after the incident:
There are two more important incidents that Heard, Wright, and Pennington reference in their court documents. You can learn about them in this video, which also heavily questions the truth behind iO Tillet Wright’s claims:
Sometime around August 16th, Amber Heard dropped her abuse allegations with prejudice. If you paid attention to the list of definitions above, you would have noticed that this means she can never file this claim again.
JOHNNY DEPP AND AMBER HEARD NEVER SETTLED THE ABUSE CASE. IT WAS DROPPED. THEY SETTLED THE DIVORCE CASE. JOHNNY DEPP DID. NOT. PAY AMBER HEARD OFF. LINK.
To learn about what a person is entitled to in a California divorce, see this link:
Upon learning what she was going to get from the divorce, Amber Heard was accused of being in it for the money. She immediately pledged to donate all seven million to the ACLU and Children’s Hospital Los Angeles.
However, Depp tried to do this first, in Heard’s name. Heard didn’t like that, so she tried to ask for double the amount she was initially going to get: 14 million. Link.
It is important to mention that the ONLY time Depp spoke out about the allegations or the divorce was his initial statement:
A short statement given through his representative to Us Weekly on May 26 that said: “Given the brevity of this marriage and the most recent and tragic loss of his mother, Johnny will not respond to any of the salacious false stories, gossip, misinformation, and lies about his personal life. Hopefully the dissolution of this short marriage will be resolved quickly.”
Besides this, Johnny Depp did NOTHING publicly. Heard is the one that constantly dragged his name through the mud.
This account is COMPLETELY different than the account given by iO Tillet Wright and Raquel Pennington.
The poop incident, and the birthday party.
Remember the underlined names in the list of Depp’s relationships? Those are the women that came forward and defended him when the abuse allegations came out.
Lori Allison: Link.
Winona Ryder: Link.
Sherilyn Fenn: Link.
His daughter, Lily-Rose Depp, also came forward defending her father:
Before I get into the aftermath of the divorce, I want to showcase more supportive material, namely Elle Rose’s (Twitter) videos, and another blog post:
The blog post: Link.
Here is also a list of notable people that have supported Depp:
Lady Gaga, Jada Pinkett Smith, Jerry Bruckheimer, Marilyn Manson, Joe Perry, Alice Cooper, Orlando Bloom, Keira Knightley, Ellen Degeneres, J.K. Rowling (more on her in a moment), the Fantastic Beasts cast, the Black Mass cast, Judy Dench, Daisy Ridley, Emma Watson….