The Monster We Aren’t Talking About


In Spanish, they think of words as masculine and feminine, with either an -a or an -o attached to the end of the word. In English, we also think of words as masculine or feminine, but we do it less explicitly and with a lot more ignorance.

Violence, from the creation of the word, all the way until today, June 27th, 2019, has always had an implied “male” preceding it. Male violence.

Consider human history. We, at our core nature, are creatures of difference, and because of that, we will always be creatures of conflict. We like to promote the idea of unity in humanity. It’s a nice idea if you look at it from the bigger picture, but when you zoom in, you start to see the cracks.

Humans are not capable of recognizing and accepting differences in others, so they either run in the other direction and promote hand holding kumbaya, or…they murder. See the two extremes? Ideally, if someone believes something different (providing they don’t “believe something different” in the same way that Hitler did), the person discovering this would shrug and go “oh, ok” and they would either respectfully discuss it or move on.

But…no. Instead, if they ask “Do you believe in God?” your goddamn answer had better be the one they are looking for, otherwise you might get shot.

A person who gets offended by differing beliefs sees those differing beliefs as a threat…for some reason. Extremist religious folks see homosexuals as a threat. Religions see other religions as a threat. Old Farmer Dick down the street sees his neighbor’s Ford truck, and since Old Farmer Dick likes Chevy, fuck Neighbor Steve and his Ford. He hates Steve.

But…what, exactly, do the extremists think homosexuals are going to do to them? Come into their house in the middle of the night and spastically lick them? Give them random strip teases to Prince? And most of the damn religions believe in the same man upstairs, so what does it matter how they arrive at that belief?

And why is Old Farmer Dick even concerned with Steve’s Ford? Is Steve’s Ford going to turn into a Transformer and destroy Dick’s farmhouse?

You had better believe the same things I believe, or I hate you and want you dead.

Violence isn’t the answer. You hear that a lot.

Except, for 90% of the people in the world, violence is, in fact, the answer.

There have been well over 30,000 battles in the course of human history, and almost as many casualties as the Earth’s current population.

This is where the issue I am talking about today is rooted in. Because, if you consider all of those wars and battles, which gender was fighting?

Men. Wars and battles were fought by men. Guns were shot by men, swords were swung by men, orders to bomb were signed by men, orders to invade were given by men.

So, with so much reinforcement, the idea that violence is only perpetrated by men is one that is easily normalized and accepted.

Even ignoring the real violence, consider action films.

The Gladiator. Braveheart. Die Hard. The Terminator. Raiders of the Lost Ark. First Blood. The Predator. Speed. The Bourne Films. Lethal Weapon. Taken. Face/Off. John Wick. Point Break. Commando. 300. Dirty Harry. Robocop. Heat. Jaws. 

All with big strong men doing big strong things with big strong guns. Sure, there have been a peppering of action films with females, like Kill Bill and Alien.

But those aren’t what you think of when you hear action film, and women aren’t what you think of when you hear violence.

Male violence is loud. They go to war.

Consider this. You have two people in a bar. One of them is standing on top of the counter waving a machete around screaming “I’ll kill the next motherfucker who comes in here”, and the other one is silently creeping behind the counter to kill the bartender. Who is the man and who is the woman?

If you said the man is machete-waver, you would be correct.

Female violence is quiet. They methodically murder family members by poisoning their soup. You don’t really hear about female violence because it is easy to ignore. Women don’t go to war, women don’t murder half of a neighborhood during a gang shootout, women don’t decide they hate Jews and exterminate seven million people.

That is because women are three things when it comes to their violence. Personal, purposeful, and premeditating. They almost always kill someone who has disrupted their personal life, they usually want to kill that person, and they think about how they are going to do it. 

Sure, there are some crossovers between the genders. Some men are premeditating, like Ted Bundy, and some women kill on impulse. But on the large scale…

On the large scale, men want to kill an entire country, and women want to kill their cheating husbands.

So that brings us to the question of why female violence is not only forgotten about, but when it is brought up, completely and utterly denied.

And the answer to that question lies in third wave feminism, which has taught us to hate men because they are rabid monsters, and love women, because they are shining angels of hope.

Evidently they have chosen to believe that Gertrude Baniszewski, Aileen Wuornos, Jodi Arias, Nannie Doss, Andrea Yates, Patty Hearst, The Manson Women, Stacey Castor, Elizabeth Bathory, Amelia Dyer, and Delfina and Maria de Jesus Gonzales are fairy-tale characters.

Let me give you a brief summary of just a few of these women.

Gertrude imprisoned a young teenager by the name of Sylvia Likens in her basement and tortured her to death with the help of half the neighborhood kids.

Aileen Wuornos murdered seven men. Jodi Arias murdered her boyfriend. Nannie Doss, A.K.A the giggling granny, murdered nearly her entire family. Elizabeth Bathory murdered nearly 800 young women.

Yeah, eight hundred.

But feminists don’t want to acknowledge that any of that happened, because then they have to acknowledge that females can be bad. And females are never bad.

Except females are bad a lot.

Let’s talk about females who commit domestic violence, since third wave feminists pretend that doesn’t happen either. Either that, or they just refer to those women as “feisty” or “strong”.

Alex Skeel was nearly killed by his girlfriend. Johnny Depp was nearly killed by Amber Heard. More than 45% of domestic violence cases are suggested to be women on men. You don’t hear about them because men don’t want to come forward…for, well, actually the same reason that women don’t want to come forward…with an added bonus.

Men don’t want to come forward because they won’t be believed, and on top of not being believed, they will be told it’s their fault, or they are the ones that were abusive.

That’s right, if a man comes forward and claims he was abused…if there is even ONE bruise on the women from the man’s self defense, NOPE the man was abusive case closed.

Feminists think feminism means MEN SCARY and WOMEN WEAK. Women would NEVER hurt a man, and not only that, they aren’t capable of hurting a man.

And they get away with peddling this narrative because violence, like I have proven, continues to be a male thing, not a people thing.

We need to start recognizing it as a people thing.

We need to remember the definition of real feminism:

Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the genders.

We need to recognize that machete-waver and counter-sneaker are equally violent.

We need to recognize that women can hurt their partners just as easily as men can, and we need to stop letting them do it.


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